Marriage is usually a long term commitment. Couples when they marry decide to stay together forever. In fortunate cases, marriage does survive for whatever reason it may be, but there are situations when couples decide to separate. Many reasons are responsible for divorce, and boredom is one of them.
In the West, couples when they get bored with each other prefer to break up the relationship, but in the East, couples continue to live together even if they are bored with each other as society lays down strictures for a single woman. It is not all that easy for a single woman to survive in Eastern society, unless and until she is financially and can emotionally withstand the problems that a single woman faces.
Boredom appears to be a very trivial reason for a marriage to break down, but in the West, couples cannot tolerate boredom usually. Marriages are usually successful when couples are well adjusted to each other. They try to overcome boredom. Well, let us see how we can overcome boredom in a marriage?
How to overcome boredom in a marriage?
#1 Being taken for Granted
Couples must not take each other for granted. They have to make a constant effort to enjoy each other’s company. Here are some signs that show your spouse is taking you for granted –
- Never start conversation – This is one of the biggest signs that you are being taken for granted. If you are the one who starts a conversation most of the time then something is wrong and you need to discuss it with your spouse. If someone likes or loves you then they are going to find ways and means to start a conversation. Relationship in marriage is all about to give and take and one-sided approach doesn’t work for long. That means if you do not take initiative all the time then the relationship is in soup and that is really an alarming situation.
- Ignore – Does your spouse ignore you in front of his or her friends. If that is the case then it is a real issue and cannot be ignored. It is like having a maid in the house to do things and sleep with them at the night. If the above is happening once in a while it is understandable but if it happens quite often then bring it to the table seriously
- Different rules – If he does something it’s fine but when you do the same it is questioned. Yes, this is a major problem with most married couples. Usually, it happens more with wives where husbands take advantage of them either because they are earning more or on the pretext that they are working very hard. In both cases, they are wrong and the problem has to be mended before it goes out of hand
- Appreciation – You are not appreciated for all the hard work you are doing or your spouse does not reciprocate when you do something going out of the way to make him feel special. This might not be an alarming situation but sourness in the relationship could come out of it if it continues for long
- Your good nature is abused – If your spouse is sure that you are dependent on them and in any condition you are not likely to leave them then they start taking you for granted.
#2 Spending time Together
One must take out time from daily chores and spend precious moments together despite having spent many years together. One can go out and have dinner at a favorite restaurant and see an enjoyable movie. This ensures that there are “sparks” in one’s marital life. Some simple habits could go a long way in building a better relationship like –
- A simple goodbye in the morning and warm good night
- Sending sms during the day while on work
- Spend time with your spouse away from children and the best time is night. 15 to 20 minutes discussion before going to sleep goes a long way in building a better understanding between two
- Address their concern and listen to each other problems quietly
- Spend some quality time together away from children like small vacation
#3 Gifts
One must exchange gifts. It just indicates love for another person. It makes the person feel special where they appreciate the time and thought the other person has dedicated for making them feel like that.
#4 Celebrating important Dates
Celebrating one’s marriage anniversary brings couples closer. It reminds them about their courtship days and how romantically they were inclined towards each other. Now also by celebrating their anniversary, they feel that they are reliving the same moments.
#5 Romance
Listening to favourite music together and having candle-light dinners can make a person feel very romantic. One must not give up on such moments. Such moments do not allow boredom to set in in a relationship.
#6 Hobbies
Pursuing hobbies that both the partners are interested in, like for instance, playing a game of tennis or going for a swim or listening to favourite tunes etc.
#7 Household Works
Cooking for each other is also a great way to enjoy each others company. One can cook a meal consisting of dishes that a spouse likes. This would make one feel that the partner cares and wants to continue the relationship.
Marriage they say are made in heaven, but the effort to ensure that they survive lies much on the shoulders of the couples. Partners must not get bored with each other. On the other hand, they must get more romantically inclined as they grow older, so that they feel they need each other’s companionship.