Is a Live in Arrangement Better

Marriage in some countries is becoming slightly outdated as young couples prefer living together, rather than marry. They feel that marriage is binding and also one has to go through legal hassles in order to separate. A live in arrangement allows much freedom to the couples as they can break the tie any time without any legal laws to be taken care of.

In the West couples often live together for sometime and then decide to marry or perhaps not marry at all. In the East, particularly in Asian countries such as India and Pakistan this live-in concept is not accepted and the couples face social discrimination. In fact, in the locality they are living they may get isolated.

Live-arrangements  are no doubt influenced by several factors, such as socio-economic status, financial well-being, social support and availability of social services, and the social milieu that one is living in.

What are the advantages of live in arrangements?

• The couples are not forced to remain with each other in case they do not like. They can just decide to break off the relationship, unlike in marriage, where they have to approach the court to do so.
• Those who do not want to have the responsibility of children can opt for this arrangement.
• Now the law has approved the legal property claim of a child born in a live-in relationship, so therefore many young people find this arrangement a better option.
• Those who are not emotionally prepared for the responsibility of a marriage prefer to have a live- in arrangement as it provides them the opportunity to live with someone in case they are unable to stay on their own.
• The feeling of no strings attached make the youngsters feel that living with someone in a live-in arrangement is a better option.

What are the disadvantages of live in relationships?

• It can make a couple feel insecure with each other as there is no legality involved as far as the relationship is concerned. A person can walk off any time. This could leave the other partner in the lurch.
• Incase one partner gets emotionally attached and the other partner ceases to have any affections then it could create problems. Sometimes a partner involved would like to settle down for good with  the other person, who perhaps may not like it that way. In other words, one of the partner may want to marry and settle down in a long-lasting relationship.
• In the Eastern countries like India, live-arrangements are not accepted socially although some couples in the urban areas and in the elite sections of the society are preferring such arrangements. In the cine world all over the world this is a very common arrangement, even in the East.
• A live-in arrangement may not be all that good for a woman. The man may go for a younger woman and ditch the earlier woman. Of course, this could also happen to men, but usually women are on the receiving end. Usually, women are treated as sex symbols.
• Although the law has allowed legal claim of property of a child born to live-in couples, they do face social ostracism. Society  easily accepts  children born out of legal marriages, and tend to look down up children born out of live-arrangements.
• The live in arrangement  can also turn out to be sour in case both partners are not made for each other. One may end up trying too many relationships  in order to get the perfect match. This could lead to exploitation of a partner who may be emotionally weak.
• Some partners go in for live-arrangements with the hope that they will get well accustomed to the partner, but this situation may not arise at times.

Despite the hassles that one faces in a live-in arrangement many urbanities particularly in the well-off sections of the society are going in for this type of arrangement. They prefer to understand each other before marriage, or just remain in that form of relationship.